you may not be asking for condemnation but did you really expect not to get any coming into a punjabi forum and saying that you violated a punjabi wedding

if this man can cheat on his indian wife he can definitely cheat on you

i agree with whoever said that you are too late.. you missed the boat

and by the way his family will definitely not accept you - not because you are american, but because that would mean divorcing his current wife - which is looked down upon -- plus you failed to mention if there are kids -- if there are, then it`s even worse

dont mean to be mean, but its just not fair to the current wife and kids (if there are any)