why not just tell him that you don`t want to have a baby out of wedlock, and ask him why he tinks it would work . . . another thing you could say is that when you get married you want to spend time with him as husband and wife instead of having a baby right off the bat . . . tell him to put himself in his parents shoes and how he would feel if his son came home and had gotten some girl pregnant. It`s funny you seem to understand more about punjabi life and culture then he does, lol.